"I just want other people to know how dangerous he is."
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Amy Maynard endured three weeks of sexual abuse at the hand of her cousin Andrew Peter Swallow, when she was just 14.
She has come forward to urge women on dating sites to do a background check of potential dates.
Swallow, now aged 32, is on the NSW Child Protection Register for the offences he committed against Ms Maynard.
In 2017, he was jailed after he was charged with sexually harassing a woman he met on Tinder.
After his release, another woman claimed he raped her while she was asleep following a date. Swallow was found not guilty by a jury.
Earlier this year he plead guilty to a breach of his obligations under the NSW Child Protection Register for uploading raunchy photos to Grindr.
He is currently serving a three-year community correction order, and resides between the Illawarra and Kiama regions.
Ms Maynard spoke out about her abuse after she heard police had concerns Swallow's offending would escalate.
"His behaviour escalated a long time ago," she said.
"I don't know how he's getting Tinder dates - I want to share my story to protect other women."
Ms Maynard grew up in the UK, however, when she was 14 her grandfather, who was living in Australia, became seriously ill.
Summer holidays were coming up, and her mother was preparing to move house - it seemed like an ideal opportunity for the 14-year-old to spend some quality time with her Australian family.
She hadn't seen her cousin, Swallow, since she was four years old.
"Mum didn't want me left alone with him," she said.
Ms Maynard's Australian family did not share those concerns, and the 14-year-old was given a bedroom at the same end of the house as her 18-year-old cousin.
The adult's rooms were at the opposite end of the house.
"The first day I met him he asked me to go down to his bedroom," she said.
"He said he'd missed me and wanted to catch up on everything.
"He asked me if I was a virgin, and wanted to talk to me about problems he had been having with his girlfriend."
After that followed the first sexual assault against Ms Maynard, who at 14 was not legally able to give consent.
Ms Maynard said when her grandparents found her in Swallow's room, they were upset with her for being in there - but nothing was said to Swallow.
That day he began a campaign of psychological abuse, following her around the house, telling her she was ugly and banging on walls and doors if she managed to escape to a separate room.
Ms Maynard had shared some of her experiences with friends at home in the UK. Although she asked them not to tell, fortunately one of them did.
Ms Maynard's mother called the house and told her she knew what was happening.
"I just started crying, I was so ashamed," she said.
"My aunt called him and he said I wanted it and I asked for it. She and my grandparents said they didn't know who to believe."
Her grandparents did take her to hospital, where Ms Maynard worked with health professionals and in particular "incredible" children's advocate - Jill Larson, who insisted she have a medical examination.
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Ms Maynard ended up staying in a motel for four days while giving evidence to the police, before returning home to the UK.
The case took more than 12 months to process. By the time it went to court, Ms Maynard's mother did not want her to return to Australia to testify, as she was highly traumatised.
"When I got home I was hallucinating a lot," she said.
"I was always trying to scrub the smell of Andrew off me. I couldn't be in the dark."
At the ensuing court case in 2006 Swallow was found guilty of having sexual intercourse with a child aged between 10 and 14. The offence carries a maximum term of 16 years imprisonment.
He received a good behaviour bond and was placed on the NSW Child Protection Registry.
Ms Maynard has since turned her life around.
She has a first grade honours degree in sociology, and now owns and runs her own company in the UK, working in part with the homeless and survivors of domestic violence.
There are still bad days, when the effects of the past resurface, however, mostly life is good.
But she felt compelled to speak about her experiences after learning Swallow was continuing to offend, and using dating sites to do so.
"After I read about his recent convictions, I had to speak out," she said.
"I want to protect other women from him.
"I would urge other victims to know that any assault like this is not your fault, and your abuser deserves to be punished.
"I want my estranged family in Australia to know I haven't disappeared, and I wasn't lying about what he did.
"Now I have children I can't imagine not protecting them the way they didn't protect me.
"I would like it if he saw this and knew I'm not scared of him.
"I'm ok - I'm more ok than he is. And it feels empowering to give my story to someone else - the worst thing is feeling like you have to keep it a secret."
